The first I knew about this was when I logged on about 6pm. Where is the official side's reasoning then? I can't find anything at all......and as you say I can't pm anybody to find out what's happened! It seems ridiculous to me. Every other forum has a pm facility.

How am I going to keep in contact with all my lady friends??

Im with you Amanda,

whats going on?? feeling all foggy and that too.....help........

Still feeling really angry......................and if the pulled " lighthearted posts" ARE to do with our nights out, does NRAS not realise that such daft posts actually kept me alive all through last year, when I was, literally, at deaths door?

Without the entertainment factor that was SO funny, I for one would have said NO MORE and opted right out of what is still a very gruelling regime to beat the big C.

I can't do it without all of you.

NRAS should wake up and reconsider; those who dislike the frivolity don't have to get involved, and those who do should feel able and free to offer anyone a giggle in their darkest days. THAT is why we have specific names for sites, to avoid offence.

It may not be our light hearted thread folks. Common sense says that it can't be surely? Lylie, I am with you. It is such fun to be silly and I look forward to all the unusual ideas that have been proposed over the years on this and our old 'story' on the fun page. Life is hard enough especially for some and I can't imagine that the majority of users would find anything offensive in our 'night out'. String........ and Jor..... haven't complained have they?

Lets hang fire and await some adult dialogue from Helen, NRAS. We are the members so should be entitled to a full explanation surely.

No one leave please. The expression 'cutting of our nose' comes to mind. Perhaps we have experienced forum type people around who could tell us what our rights are re losing our messages for example. It does not seem legal to remove them without notice unless there is a clause somewhere saying that they belong to NRAS. What about privacy laws? Are we to assume that all the PMs have now been deleted unread by others or that they are being scrutinised?

Darling Lylie. you won't be doing it without us. We will find a way to communicate through other channels if this is going wrong for us. We do have the technology!!!!!

Hang on in there all!!!

Eleanor x

Completely bemused by all this, would deffo like pms back - they are exactly that, private.

Perhaps an explanation from NRAS could be forthcoming? We are not children where we have to be policed and monitored, we are able to make our own minds up whether something is offensive or otherwise.

Nina

thinking about this AGAIn in the shower. Got out and have checked the tech spec for this forum. NRAS can technically make members moderators, which is common in all other communities of this type, and stops it dying or being underused as people drift away, turned off by not knowing the rules. I think we can manage ourselves, what do others think? It will lessen or even remove issues we have out of office hours, as we're here then. And it could be start of engagement on other issues, such as the PM facility being reinstated.

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i didnt realise this had happened....!

& my understanding is anyone who "oversteps the mark" should be contacted individually to advise and ultimately have sanctions imposed upon them if they continue, but not the whole lot of us........

....i admit it doesnt take much to confuse me, but this just seems like such a shame....... :(

So sorry Jon that you can't access your messages, you'd think they'd let you do that so that you can get the email addresses from the people/person that you've ben talking to.

In the post from Helen, it says that you can get email addresses from NRAS as long as you get the permission from the other parties involved. I didn't read it properly but you could try that. Don't know how you get the permission if you can't ask that person in the first place. seems very odd to me.

Good luck getting hold of the friend that you need.

indeed! i feel this peasant merryberry here is revolting.

we want some power over community management please.

i have experience in this, and am volunteering now. i have contacts at other forums who can advise NRAS backstage how they can make the power shift. i have a stack of resources from around the web on how to do this, how to support moderators. i am not scared of the tech and can support other moderators if they get stuck out of hours.

i also have time and health. we can all probably think of other obvious candidates whose maturity, forum seniority, time available and general good eggness make them natural candidates. anyone else want to do this?

I can ask my brother, he's a barrister....and deals with libel and slander! (LOL)

If NRAS agree to us voting for say, three or four moderators, I think this is the best way forward.

Love,

Amanda